Do you know what day January 17th is?
Here's a hint: it has
to do with New Year's Resolutions. If
you're like most
Americans, January brings a renewed sense
of energy and
motivation that usually results in a "New
Year's
Resolution." But if you have Attention
Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (also known
as ADD or ADHD),
making positive changes may be more of
a challenge than it
seems.
There are three things that make New
Year's Resolutions
difficult for ADDers. The first is that
we can sometimes
get over-ambitious, and set goals that
are not very
realistic. An example of this kind of
goal is "I will lose
40 pounds this year." While losing weight
is usually a
positive, healthy choice, setting a specific
number of
pounds to lose makes the goal difficult
to achieve. How do
you know that 40 pounds is the right number?
How do you
know that you can actually lose 40 pounds
in just one year?
The only way you can achieve this goal
is to actually lose
40 pounds in one year. A more realistic
and attainable goal
is "I will commit to weight loss and a
healthier lifestyle
this year." This goal is about making
small changes in your
lifestyle that will result in better health.
If you do your
best to make good choices, then you'll
achieve your goal.
The second thing that can make a resolution
difficult is the
reason behind it. Are you setting a goal
to make a change
that you really want to make, or a change
that you think you
should make? There is a big difference.
ADDers often spend
their lives struggling to meet others'
expectations without
ever exploring their own. If you commit
to getting more
organized this year, make sure that you
are doing it because
you want to, and not because others criticize
you for your
individual way of doing things.
And finally, the biggest reason that
ADDers have difficulty
accomplishing a New Year's Resolution
is that we don't put
the structure in place that will provide
us with support.
As ADDers make changes in their lives,
they need a support
system. No one is perfect, and small setbacks
can be
expected. But to stay focused and avoid
falling back into a
pattern of self-criticism and negative
thinking, we need to
be reminded of the benefits of our goals,
and the successes
that we have had along the way. Whatever
your goal, chances
are there is a support group of others
with the same goal
that you can join. Another great way to
ensure support is
to hire an ADD/ADHD Coach, whose job it
is to provide
insight, support and encouragement as
you make positive
changes.
So have you figured out what January
17th is? Research
suggests it's the day that most Americans
drop their New
Year's Resolutions! This year, try not
to be one of them.
Take the steps needed to ensure that you
have the necessary
support to accomplish reasonable goals
that meet your own
expectations!
About the Author:
Jennifer Koretsky is an ADD Coach who
helps people create
peace through ADD management. She partners
with clients to
increase self-awareness and positivity
while finding systems
for managing challenges. Jennifer offers
private and group
coaching, teleclasses, and a free e-newsletter.
For more
information, please visit http://www.ADDmanagement.com